Red flags in dating relationships

I’ve coached many who don’t notice the signs until it’s too late.

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Until they have committed, went “all in”, exchanged vows, decided to build something. You don’t have to take a blacklight to your relationship every single day but it’s important to be aware of sublte signs. You can do something about them before they create cracks in your relationship. This article is about subtle things we tend to ignore and sweep under the carpet.

The signs they notice they choose to swallow as the norm. So they minimize, ignore, or just accept the relationship as it is, and with that decision comes drift, feeling trapped, and internalization — believing it’s their fault or that they are defective and lacking in some way. Things we don’t examine or maybe don’t want to until there’s been too much damage or drift to repair.

The lovey dovey stuff that makes your friends say “get a room”. And since I haven’t, I didn’t realize how important it is. I’ve been dating someone who does touch me that way.

I’ve always been very tactile with the women I have been with. The slow caresses that make you feel like you’re slipping into warm bath water.

And if you’re not used to it, expressing your feelings is a great exercise for you to stretch yourself. It’s a must have for all your relationships, including the one you have with yourself. You are telling yourself in action that you matter. Every conversation doesn’t have to be about the universe and how we got here but there should be some deeper dialogue about some meaningful shit.

It shouldn’t have to take a deal breaker to talk to you partner about your feelings. What he did or didn’t do that made you feel a certain way. General check ins about how people feel in the relationship create glue and connection. What are you guys conversing about besides where to eat and what to watch? He may not be aware and once he is, he may be apologetic and change. Until one day, you just won’t see each other anymore. I’m learning about the power of touch in my own personal life. But the subtle touch, with intention and eye contact. But it’s not just the physical touch but rather the intention and energy behind it. If you guys aren’t doing that, then there are two signs here. Also on a spiritual level, it allows people to see into each other’s soul.

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