Insider guide to interracial dating

My dude was a newbie which meant I got to train him to my own unique black girl specifications, it was fun.Yes, you’ll have to be the first to explain hair grease and jumping the broom, and all of that takes time and patience, but the time spent will be worth it.Which is to say, it looks and feels like a regular conversation. But, it could also just be a legit platonic hang out. Chad could also deny it not because he’s shy but because he wants to play coy and flirty, something like “A date? Oh no, [wink wink] just wanted to hang with you.” Which is still confusing. ”I recommend using context clues to determine if you’re dating. They don’t conquer black girls the way their ancestors conquered countries.

I know a thing or two about partnering up with the white devil (hot take: they love it when you call them white devil.

I kid, I kid, they have no idea what it means, you’ll have to explain it to him. My man and I went on several “dates” before I even knew we were dating.

At that point, move on to the next Chad or take the direct approach and ask him directly if he likes you, at that point you have nothing to lose.

So by past I mean either, he’s never dated a black girl before and he knows nothing about us or he’s only dated black girls and is obsessed with us. If he’s a total newbie, I think it’s ok if he learns on the job.

Also, tell the truth, it’s not just white people who differ on recipes, you know one of your Aunts makes potato salad in a weird way which is why she’s not allowed to bring it to family functions anymore.

Hate to break it to you sis, but he’s a white person who has grown up in western society so he can’t help but be racist/prejudiced/biased etc. We as black women even have crazy distorted thoughts about ourselves because of it, so he’s certainly not going to be immune.

When you’re helping you can have some say over how at least some of the meal is prepared.

And it’s a super nice gesture to help the person who is probably stressing over trying to cook everything themselves.

That way there will be at least one dish there that you like.

And, what I’ve done many times is to offer to help cook the meal.

He will probably one day say/think/feel/communicate something that rubs you the wrong way, this is an opportunity, not a reason to bolt.

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