I am dating a man who is separated
But love has its own way of giving us things that we never expect, and here you are.
You are dating a man who is separated, fresh out of his marriage but not yet fully, legally divorced.
I have told him I support him 100% in whatever he needs to figure things out in his life.
Needless to say, my anxiety and uncertainty about our relationship heightened and caused doubt.
I ended up becoming THAT girl (the one who needs too much reassurance) out as a result and we have decided to take a break.
Evan, Your advice is spot on; I have recently been dealing with a couple of friends crying on my shoulder over the very same situation; they “fell in love” with a “separated” (AKA still MARRIED) guy and are now devastated.
One ended up going back to his wife and the other wanted to “explore a bit” and is now dating multiple women, on Tinder, etc..
Love is when TWO people are committed to each other by choice every single day, not when one person has tingly thoughts and can’t let go of a complicated situation. I couldn’t tell you if he’s going to go back to his wife, move out, or how quickly he’ll be able to move on.
I can tell you that these are decisions that are dependent on what’s right for HIM, not what’s right for YOU.I think dating a separated guy is a recipe for pain and the odds way against you.Wait till he’s divorced or at least been legally seperated for at least a year.You don’t have the skills, nor the interest, and there are experts out there who are better suited to helping your guy work through this challenging time.You may think that you want to be there for him, that you like feeling needed, and that this is a way he will see that you are a great match for him.Love is what happens AFTER this obsession goes away.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating