Dating woman hunters

The Transamorous Network aims to help men rise above “chaser” behaviors to become “transamorous,” a word Gruber defines as suiting someone who is “out and proud about their trans attraction” and treats their lover “as a whole human being,” having overcome shame and insecurity.

Gruber says the men he works with are often insecure and confused as to whether their attraction to trans women is “wholesome and legitimate.” If they “subscribe to the flawed premise” that everyone with a penis is male, they might wonder if their attraction to trans women makes them gay, or view it as “a perversion to be exorcised.” These men are stigmatized not only by society, says Gruber, but also by the trans women they seek.

Many of us are quick to write them off as “chasers,” a term that implies they are exploitative harassers who fetishize trans bodies.

Many of them catfished me, using fake profiles as bait for my pics, or beguiled me with late-night chats that vanished in the morning, when I’d discover that the boy of my dreams had blocked me.

“Whenever I log on, I get notified that several people in my inbox have deleted their profile, which I believe is only really common for [trans women],” says Charlene.

“Literally just had the most amazing night talking to Tyler,” Jules, a high school junior, texts her best friend and classmate, Rue, referring to the crush she’s been messaging for weeks.

Jules texts Tyler nonstop: in class, before she falls asleep, and first thing in the morning when she awakes.

“It’s an external shame specifically,” he tells me.

“Shame about not wanting people in their lives to know that they have these desires.” Gruber, who also runs a spiritual support network and identifies as transamorous himself, agrees with me when I point out that the number of trans-attracted men who treat their romantic partners as whole human beings seems small.

I’ve chatted online with many boys like Shy Guy118, who are attracted to my femininity and intrigued—or explicitly turned on—by the fact that I have a dick.

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