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“A single person looking for marriage is already limited by relying on others to help him or her out,” Ackerman told The Jewish Week via email.“If I want an ice cream from the store, do I hire a middleman to introduce me to the ice cream? I will go to the store and pick out my own brand of ice cream with my favorite flavor at the right price. If you want action, then you’re best off doing it yourself.” The group has not yet led to any matches, but has over 90 members.
The breakup had been painful, but Rivka was looking to get back on the dating circuit.
“I don’t think I ever would have seen myself going through an online forum to date,” said the recent Ivy League graduate living on the Upper West Side, citing a background in mixed-gender educational and social settings.
“You know what you’re attracted to, you know what you’re interested in; it’s tough for someone else to make those decisions for you.” As the gig economy creates increasing expectation for intensely customizable and immediately accessible services — from ride sharing to grocery delivery — questions about the usefulness of a standardized matchmaking system that involve less input on the part of the user continue to emerge.
And while Saw You At Sinai and its affiliates are traditional in their commitment to the importance of the matchmaker, their payment model — based on couples paying matchmakers directly upon a successful engagement — hews neatly to a model similar to Uber and other on-demand direct service companies.
His one-hour consultation offerings range from a $90 “Social Media Revamp” to a $150 “Get Smart About Online Dating” session.
For Sarah Kasdan, an OU-JLIC educator at Cornell, the program isn’t just a service to students (undergraduates are given gold membership for free, graduate students are charged half price and alumni are given a discount while Saw You At Sinai has monthly membership fees) but an opportunity for educators to deepen their relationships with students.Weinberg advocates for the value of having an “ombudsman” in the dating-for-marriage process.In contrast to what she characterizes as “environment of wandering,” created by apps in which daters keep seeking a more perfect person in an endless sea of possibilities and never allow a relationship to develop, a shadchan helps encourage communication and compromise to help a couple build a rapport.And its merging of old-school and new-school technologies occupies a potent middle ground in a fast-changing Orthodox dating environment.On the new-school side of the equation stands Alan Avitan, a 28-year-old businessman with a close-cropped beard and a ready smile who lives on the Upper West Side.Get Jewish Week's Newsletter by email and never miss our top stories Free Sign Up Her matchmaker is part of a newly launched program called OU-JLIConnections, a partnership between the Orthodox Union’s Jewish Learning Initiative on Campus and the popular Orthodox dating site Saw You At Sinai, which relies mostly on matchmakers browsing online dating profiles.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating