Dating 40s

There's also a alot more at stake in this point in your life, since, let's face it, no one's getting any younger. The fact that you are older, wiser, and more experienced means you will be more judicious when dating and considering potential partners.

"The good news is you know yourself really well by 40 and know what you want, therefore, making better choices," Seiter said.

Here are the ways dating is different when you are 40 and over.

Most people over 40 are established in their lives, with steady careers and families.

— As a dating coach for single women over 40, one of the first questions I ask a client is, “What’s your biggest problem in dating? I recently asked a group of about 300 single, divorced, and widowed women over 40 what their biggest problems were in dating. They want to be appreciated for more than their bodies.

” I want to know what they’ve tried and what their struggles are. I wanted to see how many struggled with the same issues. So guys, please pay attention to more than the boobs and the butt. Those things are far more important than a Harvard or Yale degree, or whether or not he speaks Mandarin.

"It will be more challenging because you will have more external distractions from your relationship.

For example, if you have kids, your new partner may feel neglected if you pay more attention to them, than her or him." If you are diving back into the dating pool in your 40s, expect Former spouses may remain in the picture — in your life or theirs — thus, creating some drama. "You or your new mate may have an ex that is trying to sabotage the new relationship," Seiter said.

That's not to suggest that you are all business, all of the time.

But you likely have moved past the messy, surface stuff that defines dating in your youth.

Hope also warns against being afraid of online dating. "You know what you want and don't have time to waste.

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